Anything Goes

Hello lil birds! 🐤🐥🐥🐓🐔

Thank you for coming back! 💓

Recently, I’ve been giving monogomy a lot of thought. Monogomy is a form of relationship in which an individual has only one partner during their lifetime or at any one time. All of the relationships that I’ve been in have been monogamous relationships. I actually can’t picture myself in any type of polygamous or open relationship. First of all, some of you know how I feel about sharing things. Secondly, it just sounds a little dangerous! 😓 However, open relationships are way more common than y’all might know. They’re not like a “new thing” or anything, but they’re certainly still difficult for me to wrap my mind around. Let’s twalk.

How does a couple decide to venture into an open relationship? Is it something that’s decided up front, or something that happens further into the relationship? How does one protect, as cheesy as it sounds, their heart? By that I mean how does one avoid getting hurt by anything that might go wrong?

Is sharing really caring?

The latest episode of Looking (a show on HBO that stars Jonathan Groff) tackles the emotional toll open relationships can have on some people. I imagine people get involved in these types of relationships for the thrill or maybe just because it’s hot. I understand that ground rules are set and as long as these rules aren’t broken everything is copacetic.

In the show, Dom, the hot middle aged man who is struggling to get a business going whilst trying to understand his open relationship with a much older man (Lynn), starts to realize that maybe the open relationship thing isn’t for him. Lynn flat out says an open relationship is all he can offer Dom. This kind of breaks Dom a little. He knew what he was getting himself into from the start, but the thing was he thought this was something him and his Lynn were doing just for funsies. What Dom didn’t know was Lynn was doing him just for funsies too. It no longer was something that they were just doing for fun together. It was all they were ever going to have. This is just a case of not being on the same damn page.

Ultimately, open relationships are, from my understanding, something that couples decide to take on to spice things up. It’s not something that is necessary.It’s strictly fun just as long as everyone is being honest. Once you have that understanding, hopefully everything else is smooth sailing 😉

The thing that is key is honesty. I think it should be for many of us in any type of relationship. It sounds very simple, but its proven to be more complex than it should be. Dishonesty can ruin any relationship.

Although open relationships are very common nowadays, to some they still might be a little confusing. It’s a hot topic, and one that we should try to not be so closed-minded about. I feel like trying to understand open relationships has not only enlightened me a little bit, but it also has encouraged me to invite third parties into my bedroom.

Just kidding! 😂

I don’t know that I’d ever get involved in an open relationship, but I do feel that it isn’t such a taboo subject anymore. To those of y’all that are down with that, more power to ya! 😉

Let me know your thoughts on this!

“In olden days a glimpse of stocking
Was looked on as something shocking,
But now, God knows,
Anything Goes.”

WEEKLY OBSESSION!

Beyoncé taking us to church on Sunday night during her Grammy performance!

🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌

Song of The Week!

Lonely Tonight by Blake Shelton feat. Ashley Monroe. This song is off of his most recent album, Bringing Back The Sunshine. This song is absolutely beautiful! Perfect for that lonely Valentine’s Day some of us will be having 😒

Y’all be blessed now! Until next time! 💜

XO,

Carlos

Ex-Factor

Hello! 🙋

Until just recently, I always believed that staying friends with an ex is something that shouldn’t happen. I believed staying friends with an ex was just asking for trouble, especially when you’re in a relationship with someone else. Don’t get me wrong, I still kind of believe that, but is there ever an exception? An exception that is good for everyone involved?

Of course, there are people out there that are perfectly fine with being friends with an ex and life is swell for them, but what about the people that aren’t able to cope with it? Are their feelings invalid? Are they being childish? I think being friends with an ex only becomes a real issue when you’re in a relationship. Maybe it all boils down to trust issues, but things do tend to get a little complicated when an ex is involved.

I know it does for me. One of my exes was like best friends with his exes, and it drove me up the wall. Throughout our relationship, I learned to deal with it because I kept telling myself I was being immature. I even went as far as almost being friends with one of them for the sake of….hmmm…I guess my sanity. In the end, my ex cheated on me with his ex. The one I was almost friends with.

It was tough! I also understand that this is just one situation. I know of plenty of people who make the ex thing work, but I can’t help but think that it’s just playing with fire.

When you break up with someone, where does everything you guys had go? To hell? To the next person? Does it ever really just go away?

When it comes to exes, is anything really ever off the table?

Sooooo I’m Carrie Bradshaw?! 😂😂😂

Ultimately, I respect everyone’s take on an ex. I think as long as you take everyone involved and their feelings into consideration, then I don’t see why it can’t work. Like with anything, there has to be that level of respect for one’s feelings.

What are your thoughts on a friendship with an ex? Good or bad idea? Really! Comment and let me know your thoughts!

WEEKLY OBSESSION!

Beyoncé’s Platinum Edition album!

Get it. It’s EVERYTHING! LITERALLY. 🙌🏄

SONG OF THE WEEK!

White Winter Hymnal by Pentatonix from their That’s Christmas To Me album. They are so good! It’s a cover song originally sung by Fleet Foxes who are also great! This piece is all voice and a syncopated hand clapping beat that’s infectious. The harmonies are beautiful and on point! My favorite part of the song are the tongue-in-cheek harmonies at the beginning. It sounds kind of funny, but I’m obsessed! Get the album! It’s on fleek!

Until next time!  God bless! 💜✌

XO,

Carlos

Where Do You Start?

Hello friends! 🙋

Can y’all believe it’s November already?! Where does the time go? Is this what it’s like after you turn 25?! Make it stop! ✋

This is the time of year when we’re all reflecting on 2014. We go through all of the good and bad experiences and decide where we go from here. It can be a very exciting thing, but for a lot of us, it might feel like we’re kind of stuck. Maybe the bad outweighed the good this year, and that’s fine! The important thing is that we’re here! Alive, healthy, blessed, and ready to get going!

So, where do you start?

I think Glinda The Good Witch was on fleek when she said, “It’s always best to start at the beginning–and all you do is follow the Yellow Brick Road! ” Put your best foot forward, ruby slipper or Louboutin, and just go! 🏃👠👡👞👟👢

Of course, it’s easier said than done, but think about how much more fun it’ll be to start a new journey as opposed to just sitting there waiting for change to happen.

Soooo, get the fuck up and werk because you have a job to do, and that’s to live the best life you can live. Why do we wait for New Year? Playin’ games! Let’s start here and now!

**Goes to sleep** 😂

For real though! You can start by making the smallest change. Change your routine! Put your deodorant on before your underwear, or do a little dance after you lock your door. It’s a small start, but it’s a start!

We can do it! 😉

I hope this was the tiny push you needed to get going! I know I needed it. I’m doing sit ups as I type this! 💪

WEEKLY OBSESSION!

This Houston weather!!! 🙌 🙌 🙏

My closet has been waiting all year! This weather has been on point, minus the little rain, and I couldn’t be happier about it! Although a bitch does need to go shopping for coats and jackets. I donated all my winter stuff last year and apparently forgot it would get cold again! Any suggestions?! Before a bitch freezes :)❄

I also want to add something new to the blog! I got this from my favorite Vloggers, Sup3rfruit, A.K.A Scott and Mitch from PTX! Go to YouTube and hit subscribe! I want to include a favorite song for every post!

Here it is!

Home by Whitney Houston!

It’s off of her recently released album of her best live performances! Her rendition of this beautiful ballad from The Wiz is absolutely breathtaking and in my opinion solidified her as an artist to watch out for during that time. A fun fact about that performance on The Merv Griffin Show is that during the performance, Whitney’s mother, Cissy Houston, felt that the conductor of the band was taking the tempo too slow. So, Cissy pushes the conductor out of the way and starts conducting the band herself! You can see it all in the background during the performance. Isn’t that great?!

Whitney Houston Performing Home (The Merv Griffin…: http://youtu.be/OTJQltcFYhY

Until next time! God bless!

XO,

Carlos

XO

Hello! 🙋

Yesterday was my birthday! Thank you guys so much for all of the love! Y’all sure do know how to make a bitch feel special!

Originally, my birthday plans involved going to work, going home, and going to sleep. I wasn’t trying to celebrate or make a big fuss. I just wanted to get the day over with.

Of course, my friends weren’t having that. 😒

Tell me why Ang, Eli, Moni, and Fefe break into my home at midnight and start throwing balloons at me while I’m in bed. Anyone who knows me knows that I get my life from balloons and flowers. It was perfect. To top it off, they brought pecan pie 😋

The fun didn’t stop there! I get to work and find my desk decorated with streamers and glitter! My coworkers are adorable. When it was lunch time, my aunt got together with Gaby and my coworkers to setup a little lunch feast for all of my coworkers! So freaking awesome 💜

I ended the night at Pluckers with Ang, Eli, and Felicia wearing huge birthday cone hats. It was the best!

Needless to say, my plans were ruined 😉

I’m the luckiest person in the world. I’m surrounded by people that genuinely care about me and continue to save my life every day. Thank you!

Turning 25 is kind of a big deal. I’m not sure if I feel any different, but I’ve definitely come a long way from that mustache wearing boy that wore flip flops in the winter. I look back and can’t help but smile. Through all the drinks, laughter, tears, scares, break ups, hangovers… its been fucking fun.

To the next 25! 💚

WEEKLY OBSESSION!

MY FRIENDS!

Until next time!

XO,

Carlos

I Feel Love

Hello!

Thank you so much for coming back! 💓

I’m not sure if this is what happens when you start getting older, or if I’m serving Debbie Desperation lately, but I’ve never been asked why I’m still single as much as I have recently. It’s not even like a, “How are you still single?!” vibe either! It’s an almost genuine concern as to why I haven’t gotten my life together enough to have a boo thang. 

Haha or maybe it’s just my inner goddess, yes, like Anastasia Steele, harassing me to get my love life together after being asked about it so often. I kid you not, in a span of about a week, I was asked why I was single by four different people.

Bish whet?!

In all honesty, dating is literally the last thing on my long ass To-Do List right now. I’m not rejecting the possibility, but it’s definitely not something I’m making a priority.

So, I’m fine! The love and support I’m getting from my friends and family is more than I could ever ask for 💜. Love has never been more present in my life than it has been here lately, and for that I’m grateful! I’m sure the man of my dreams will come when he’s supposed to!  😉

For right now, Bae is the in home breathalyzer I have to blow 3 times a day to stay out of jail 😵

Don’t drink and drive, people!

WEEKLY OBSESSION!

THE WALKING FUCKING DEAD!

That episode was everything! I was so nervous about this episode because I was really thrown by the stupid Terminus bitches! Even though the reason behind their cannabalistic ways is a little unclear to me still, the episode was on point.

Can we talk about Carol’s bad ass?! At first I was like, Carol doin the most walking around with all these Walkers. Then this boss ass betch goes and blows up Terminus freeing everyone! I was like YAAAAAASSSSSS, CAROL!!! Then that hug between her and my man Daryl had me all misty eyed.

I can’t wait to see what happens next! Did anyone understand what the cure was?! Cause a bitch is lost. Let me know!

Until next time!

XO,

Carlos

It’s Hard To Dance With The Devil On Your Back

Shake it out! Shake it out! 🙆

Hello, gorgeous! Thank you for coming back! 💓

I’m slowly but surely starting to see that whatever I’m going through, or whatever you’re going through will get better. It has to!

I found myself saying this to a customer today. She called in saying she couldn’t make her payment today because her car broke down while she is out of town for work. Her radiator apparently said, “Bye, gurl.” She has been having issues with her car since she first drove it off the lot (why she signed the contract is beyond me, but to each his own). She started venting about her bad luck. She didn’t understand why bad things kept happening to her when she tries her best to be the best human being she can be. Poor thing was so stressed. Aside from her car breaking down in a different city, she had to wait for hours for help in hot ass Arizona.

Ultimately, she just needed a little more time to make her payment. Luckily, she only needed until tomorrow, which is close out for us 🙌🙌🙌. After telling her that would be okay, she thanked me and said,”I hope things get better…” I simply said, “They will. They have to!” She said, “You know what? You are so right. Things could always be worse.” Mhmm! They sure as hell can always be worse.

We’re blessed! Whatever struggles come our way are all part of the big plan!

I’m still stressed as hell, but more hopeful than ever.

🎶”It’s always darkest before the dawn.”🎶

WEEKLY OBSESSION!

Scandal!

I cannot be happier that this show is back! I don’t know why! It only stresses me the eff out, but it’s so good!

Let’s talk about the way they handled Harrison’s death. PERFECT. I was bawling. Obviously, it’s what needed to happen, but what made it so sad for me was the fact that these people were actually saying goodbye to not just a coworker, but a friend. SO SAD!

Jake! Had a bitch blushing and shit! 😍😋😘 “I’m the one you ride…” GUUUURL BYE!

Until next time!

XO,

Carlos

There Are Worse Things I Could Do

Hello!

Thank you so much for coming back! 💙💚💛💜💗💖

Oh, yes! A bitch has emojis now! 💅 Get into it!

Here we go! 🏄 ::SURFBOARD::

I tend to open up and let you guys into my personal life a little bit in my blog. I feel that sometimes sharing stuff that I’m going through with y’all is not only therapeutic for me, but I also do it with hopes that you too can become America’s Next Top Model…

Kidding. I do it with hopes that it might help someone out there going through something similar or just to give you a peek inside my stupid head. 🙈

I am, however, well aware that there will be people that will take what I put out there and judge. Which is fine. What people say or think about me is none of my business, like RuPaul says. But if you’re gonna come for me, you better be fucking perfect.

I’m learning from everything that is being thrown at me right now and I’m trying my very best to keep it as together as I possibly can. What I really want to do is curl up in a hole and die, but that’s not who I am and that certainly wouldn’t be cute.

I’m not the first to get into trouble, and I definitely won’t be the last. So, twirl on that!

To all of you who have been so loving and supportive, I can’t tell you how much it means to me. It’s literally what gets me through each day 💙

WEEKLY OBSESSION!

Barbra Streisand–PARTNERS

This album is EVERYTHING! She sings duets of some of her classic songs with some of the greatest male vocalists. My favorite so far is What Kind of Fool with John Legend! It’s beautiful! Treat yourself and purchase this album!

And if you follow me on SnapChat (cosaravia)….

🔺🔻▶◀⏪⏩⏫⏬⚠🍕🍙🍄

#ILLUMINATI

Until next time! Be blessed, y’all!

XO,

Carlos

Defining Moments

Hello!

It’s been awhile. Thank you for coming back!

Life has its obvious defining moments. When you graduate, when you get married, when you have a kid, when you turn 21, when you lose your V-Card, or when you experience failure. These defining moments change our lives forever. Regardless of whether the experience was good or not, we count on these moments to take us to that next level in our lives that will hopefully lead us to greater things.

For those of you close to me, you’re aware that I’ve had better days. I was recently faced with a defining moment, and it has turned my life completely upside down. It’s so crazy how in an instant your whole life could just come crashing down.

I’m still waiting for it to stop.

And I know everything happens for a reason. I know God knows what she’s doing, but fuuuuccckkkk let a bitch catch her breath. Everyone keeps saying everything will be okay and that it could be worse…and I know that, but I can’t help but feel like my life is unraveling.

DWIs happen everyday and I know I’ll get through it, I just still can’t believe it happened to me. This isn’t going to be something that I’m going to let define me, but I know it will lead me to wherever I need to be.

I just hope it happens soon.

I don’t wish to further discuss the situation or what happened, but your positive thoughts and prayers are greatly appreciated!

I once read something that has stuck with me, and I’m trying to apply it to my life right now.
“I never lose. I either win or I learn.”

WEEKLY OBSESSION!

Queen Bey’s VMA performance!

I mean first of all, who could perform their whole album at an award show? Your fave could NEVER!!! #NoTeaNoShade
That performance was everything! I’m still getting my life!

Until next time! God bless!

XO,

-Carlos

I’m Coming Out!

Hello, hello, hello!

Thank you so much for coming back! I love y’all!

HAPPY GAY PRIDE MONTH!

I always love this time of year! Rainbows, hot men, hot women, love, glitter, and all things gay are in the air! It’s so beautiful!

It took a long time for our community to get to where we are today, and we still have a LONG ways to go, but it’s great to sit back and enjoy everything that we have accomplished thus far.

I know many of you have heard this, but I wanted to share my coming out story with y’all! Y’all know I’m very private, like Beyoncé, but in the spirit of PRIDE, I want to share my story.

It was almost 8 years ago! Gosh! Time flies when you’re having fun! Anyway, I woke up that morning thinking,”This is the day.” I decided that day was the day I would tell my mom and my aunt I was a flaming homosexual. I don’t know why exactly, but I think it might have had to do with me being so happy. I was in love with my first love and I was surrounded by amazing friends. I was in a really good place. I talked to my boyfriend at the time about it, and he was scared for me. He was in the closet too, so, it was kind of a weird time for him. Plus, he was older than me, so I guess that made him nervous too. He was 19 and I was 16! I talked to Ang about it as we walked around Memorial City Mall looking for shoes, and I remember she was excited for me! Nervous, but excited nonetheless!

My aunt, my mom and me were on our way to pick up my siblings who were being held captive by their crazy grandma. She didn’t want to let my mom have them back after they spent the summer over at her house. It was a drama! Well, while the three of us were in my aunt’s big white truck staking out the crazy grandma’s apartment complex waiting for the cops to show up, I decided to do it.

Me: I have something to tell you guys.
My Aunt: Aww shit. What?
Mom: What happened, Saravia.
Me: I don’t know…
My Aunt: What? Shit, did you get someone pregnant?!
Me: Oh my God, no!
Mom: Then what, Saravia?
Me: I think…I think I’m gay.
:::::Eternal silence:::::
My Aunt: You think?
Me: No…I know.
Mom: Are you sure, Saravia?
Me: I’m pretty sure.
My Aunt: Well…we still love you.
Mom: Yeah, mijo nothing is going to change. I love you!
Me: Thank you…
My Aunt: Damn boy you couldn’t have picked a better time to tell us this shit? The cops are here.

That was the gist of the conversation lol. I get nervous even as I was typing that, but it was the most liberating moment of my life. It almost felt like the death drop thing at Fiesta Texas! It’s scary as hell,  but you feel like a bad bitch once you get off! I know I’m actually really lucky to have amazing parents like the ones I have, but a lot of people don’t get that kind of support, and that makes me very sad. Let’s keep them in our thoughts and prayers!

It’s time for my….

WEEKLY OBSESSION!!

Men of Moores!

I’m obsessed with these guys! They’re so good! It’s a student lead a capella group at my school! They’re on point! So on point, that they’re releasing their debut single Creep on iTunes, Amazon mp3, Google Play, and Spotify tomorrow! Go out and support these superstars!

http:// Men of Moores – Creep by Radiohead: http://youtu.be/lhYlZ6iLf50

Until next time! God bless and Happy Gay Pride!

Love,

Carlos

Who Are You Now?

Hello, hello, hello!

I can’t say this enough, thanks again for coming back!

This Memorial Day weekend was on point! I was some type of drunk every day since Friday! It caught up to me this morning though. I had to call in to work, which I felt awful about 😦 Anyway, it was a great weekend and thanks to everyone that was involved! The craziest thing I did was party on a boat!

My friend Paul has this boat, so we went to Lake Somerville (which is where I lost my gay virginity coincidentally) to party on it! A bitch may or may not have gotten a concussion from bouncing like crazy on that float we were on. It was being pulled by the boat and a bitch kept flying off of it! When we were getting ready to leave, I somehow walked away from the group trying to get to my car. I ended up getting lost in a forest! It was so crazy because I wasn’t able to walk sometimes because there were like bushes of thorns blocking every way! It was kind of scary at one point. When I finally made it through the forest, I may or may not have started crying 🙂

All in all it was a good time, but my legs and arms are all cut up! Not cute.

I’m finally starting to feel like myself again. A lot of you guys have been asking me how I’ve been since the breakup, and although it does make me sad, I really am fine! I’m in this place where I’m trying to figure out who I am now after this. I obviously have some things I need to work out, but one of my fears going into this relationship was losing myself in it. I don’t think that I did, but I think my constant efforts to prevent it is a big part of why it didn’t work out. I like to have a good time. I mean, it’s not everyday that I get lost in a forest, but I’m a party boy. It’s not who I plan on being forever, but it’s who I’m happy being right now.

Maybe one day I’ll find someone who can party as hard as me 🙂

WEEKLY OBSESSION

The Normal Heart.

I haven’t cried so hard during and after a movie since Marley and Me. This movie takes place in the early 80s when HIV/AIDS was spreading like crazy and no one knew what was causing it. It was such a scary time and it’s so sad how many loved ones were lost because of the “gay cancer.” WATCH THIS MOVIE.

Until next time! God bless! 🙂

Love,

Carlos