Where Does The Good Go?

First and foremost, HAPPY 7/11 👌🏽

Biiiiiiiiiiiiiiitch! Remember me?! I’m not even going to bother with providing y’all with an excuse. She’s back and thanks for being here! 🌸

It takes me a second to get over stuff. I’m definitely that “I’ll get over it, but let me be dramatic about it for a second” type of girl. Charlotte York once said that it should take you half the duration that anything took to get over it if it goes bad. For instance, if you took a month to do something and it doesn’t work out or it goes awry, you should take no more than 2 weeks to dwell on it and get over it. I’ve come to realize that that’s kind of bullshit. I know! I never thought I’d come to a point in life where I’d disagree with any knowledge imparted by the SATC ladies, but everyone should be on their own timeline. I’ve also come to realize that the idea of “closure” is such a TV made up word. That’s not a thing. You learn to let go of whatever idea you had in your head and move past it. You can fight me on this 👐🏽

I’m fine, guys! I’m sorry about the brief hiatus. I was just In My Feelings about this bird. Y’all know my bounce back is like no other. Your texts and messages meant a lot to me 🌸

I don’t believe in throwing people away, at least not anymore. I’ve come to a place where I’ve learned to appreciate the role anyone has ever played in my story. My struggle is dealing with the loss, if you will. The loss of having someone in your life that likes you in THAT way, no matter the length of time. It was nice. It inevitably invites that crippling feeling of loneliness and it’s not a good time. You know, it’s easy to get clouded with thoughts of not being good enough or feeling like a fool. It’s tough shit, but you do come around and realize that although he might’ve been very dreamy, he wasn’t the sun.

I’m the sun ☀️

I’m on that Grey’s Anatomy shit, y’all 😂

I learned a couple of lessons, had so many good laughs, and most importantly gained a really good friend. It was definitely a summer to remember. So, I guess you can say that’s where the good goes.

I do know this for sure…no matter who messed with your heart or how long it takes to recover, you’ll never get through it without your friends (assistants)❤

CURRENT OBSESSION

Everything Is Love ❤ THIS JOINT ALBUM, Y’ALL!! Can you believe?! It’s everything. You hoes can now stream it everywhere!

SONG OF THE MONTH

Summer by Beyoncé and Jay Z! This song is such a summer vibe, guys. It’s literally my favorite song on the album! Treat yaself and take a listen! 👂🏽

I missed y’all! I missed sharing and getting stuff out through this medium. I promise I’ll be back soon! Look at these messages I got after the hiatus. Y’all are a big ass mess 😂

I’m gonna go drink some water now and see where that takes me.

XO,

Carlos 🌸

Funny Boy

Hi! 🙋

If you read my blog, I’m sure you’ve gathered that I’m a hopeless romantic and a mess. I LOVE love and I think it’s the foundation to anything I do in life. I don’t ever use the word unless I mean it and I don’t take it for granted. Like Carrie says, “It’s the only label that never goes out of style.”

We go through life seeking and sometimes living a great love story. If you’re like me, you get your life from love stories like Carrie and Big’s, Anastasia and Christian’s, Vivian and Edward’s, or Ross and Rachel’s. Yes, I know they’re not real, but we grow up hoping that we get a chance to live that fairytale and find our prince or princess. I’ve been lucky enough to have witnessed such love stories in real life. My BFF, Ang, just married her prince and it was so beautiful. Just like in the movies. Witnessing love stories like this gives you hope and proves that it really can happen!

I know you guys probably read my blog and think, “Damn, another boyfriend?” or “Damn, this bitch can’t keep a man to save her life!” Haha I promise I’m not some thot that jumps from guy to guy! Not that there’s anything wrong with that! Shout out to all my thots! ❤

I always go into a relationship with the wholehearted intention of making it work and making the other person happy. I know that it hasn’t worked out, but it doesn’t make the love stories any less great. Kind of like Katie and Hubbell or Fanny and Nicky Arnstein. They didn’t end up together, but their love stories are just some of the greatest on film.

I know people think I’m silly for always referencing movies for everything that happens in real life, but it’s what keeps my faith alive. Guys probably think I’m just a funny creep that has lost touch with reality, but I don’t see anything wrong with using these stories as aspirations in life. It’s probably what has kept me from becoming a cynical douchebag.

Being a hopeless romantic in a hook up culture is definitely tough, but I don’t think I could ever stop believing in love. I know I haven’t been “the one” for anybody, but I still have faith. Faith in myself, that I’ll one day come across someone who is sure that I’m the one. Until then, bring on the chick flix and alcohol! 😉

I hope that this helped anyone out there feeling some typa way during the holidays 💜

CURRENT OBSESSION

Adele.

This queen has given me my life on a platter with her new album, 25. It is absolutely stunning. Please treat yourself and get it!

SONG OF THE WEEK

Water Under The Bridge by Adele

This song is from her new album and it is literally what my life is about right now. Take a listen!

http://youtu.be/MIgKHiFfB0k

Until next time! ❤

XO,

-Carlos

Ex-Factor

Hello! 🙋

Until just recently, I always believed that staying friends with an ex is something that shouldn’t happen. I believed staying friends with an ex was just asking for trouble, especially when you’re in a relationship with someone else. Don’t get me wrong, I still kind of believe that, but is there ever an exception? An exception that is good for everyone involved?

Of course, there are people out there that are perfectly fine with being friends with an ex and life is swell for them, but what about the people that aren’t able to cope with it? Are their feelings invalid? Are they being childish? I think being friends with an ex only becomes a real issue when you’re in a relationship. Maybe it all boils down to trust issues, but things do tend to get a little complicated when an ex is involved.

I know it does for me. One of my exes was like best friends with his exes, and it drove me up the wall. Throughout our relationship, I learned to deal with it because I kept telling myself I was being immature. I even went as far as almost being friends with one of them for the sake of….hmmm…I guess my sanity. In the end, my ex cheated on me with his ex. The one I was almost friends with.

It was tough! I also understand that this is just one situation. I know of plenty of people who make the ex thing work, but I can’t help but think that it’s just playing with fire.

When you break up with someone, where does everything you guys had go? To hell? To the next person? Does it ever really just go away?

When it comes to exes, is anything really ever off the table?

Sooooo I’m Carrie Bradshaw?! 😂😂😂

Ultimately, I respect everyone’s take on an ex. I think as long as you take everyone involved and their feelings into consideration, then I don’t see why it can’t work. Like with anything, there has to be that level of respect for one’s feelings.

What are your thoughts on a friendship with an ex? Good or bad idea? Really! Comment and let me know your thoughts!

WEEKLY OBSESSION!

Beyoncé’s Platinum Edition album!

Get it. It’s EVERYTHING! LITERALLY. 🙌🏄

SONG OF THE WEEK!

White Winter Hymnal by Pentatonix from their That’s Christmas To Me album. They are so good! It’s a cover song originally sung by Fleet Foxes who are also great! This piece is all voice and a syncopated hand clapping beat that’s infectious. The harmonies are beautiful and on point! My favorite part of the song are the tongue-in-cheek harmonies at the beginning. It sounds kind of funny, but I’m obsessed! Get the album! It’s on fleek!

Until next time!  God bless! 💜✌

XO,

Carlos